I am Moriah Marston, a soul mentor and psychotherapist who helps individuals and couples more readily define the "psychic prisons" that are keeping them locked in nonproductive and troubling life pattern

The Situation

Too often couples continually repeat the same dialogue and get "stuck."

They cannot stop or reverse the cycle and become more frustrated, angry and resentful. Trying to resolve their issues without outside help is very difficult, especially if they are individually dealing with unresolved inner conflicts of their own.

The Approach

As a nonjudgmental support, I can help both partners learn more about themselves, each other and what can be done to help the relationship.

All problems in relationships are co-created by both people.

There is no "bad guy" in the relationship. When both partners take responsibility for patterns they are playing in the relationship, then they can break out of the ways that they hurt each other.

To love one's partner involves being willing to learn about their needs and fulfill them without sacrificing one's truth. When relationships leave the initial stages of romance, they deepen into a powerful bond that stirs up childhood wounds needing attention. In our work together we identify the deeper needs and expectations of each partner and explore ways in which these needs can be met. Open communication of these needs and expectations clears the air and provides a greater flow of understanding and cooperation.

In most cases, poor communication is a major problem in a relationship. The object is to get the couple to talk to each other and, importantly, to really listen to what one another has to say.

At the onset of our work together, I help uncover the root of the problems as soon as possible as well as to establish trust. I am like a detective who follows the deeper messages from the unconscious in order to unlock the trapped parts of self that are yearning to be revealed, included and loved in the relationship.

Through identifying events and circumstances that occurred early in life, as adults there lies an opportunity to eliminate the false conclusions made from a child's perspective and feeling victimized as a result. Then these wounds don't have to be unconsciously acted out in the relationship. Each partner can then bring maturity, self-awareness and self-responsibility which creates a healthy relationship based on interdependence rather that co-dependence.

The couples session should be a place where each individual can share thoughts and feelings in a non-judgmental environment that may be too threatening to expose at home. They may be afraid to bring up issues for fear that their relationship would fall apart. Ironically, the sharing of these concerns brings new awareness that leads to both a richer appreciation of each other and increased love.

I provide tools and assignments for the couple to apply outside of the session.

Sessions are offered via phone or office visit.